Why I'd Never Date a Millionaire
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I was just watching the Tyra Banks Show and they hooked up a woman for a date with a millionaire. Many women dream of finding a rich man to date and ultimately marry.
He takes her to a fancy French restaurant where she can't even read the menu. The first words out of his mouth are "Can I order for you?" That was the first red flag for me. I would have said, "Yes you may, but only if you let me pick the next restaurant and order for you the next time we go out."
It also bothered me that he didn't ask her about her food preferences or if she had any allergies. He orders her escargot and a shellfish soup. What kind of sick test is that? Many people are allergic to shellfish. She realizes they are snails, but she's a good sport and eats them. All the while he's really impressed that he got to show this 'not too savvy' woman a thing or two about his high-class world. He's enjoying her nervousness. That's another red flag for me. It says to me, "I'm a control freak and as long as I can keep you unhinged, I'll be fine with our relationship." She tries to eat the shellfish, but she can't even get them loose from their shells. She comments later that he ordered her weird food and he ordered himself good food.
I don't want to be in a relationship where the person who has all the money holds all the cards. If a man flies me to Paris for lunch, I want to be able to fly him to Greece for dinner. How would I ever feel equal in a relationship where he has the money to do what he pleases and I don't?
The only way I'd consider it is if I became a millionaire first and then I might date one of them. But I'd still order my own food off the menu.
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We are all permanently in just such relationships with those who hold the cards, if we'd only wake up and see it. There is no equality here: he who has the money, makes us hop.
Id rather date a poor but with care man than a millionaire who has no care at all. =)
im dating a millionaire n its a pain in the ass
hes been given the silver spoon forever has no clue how to have a faithful relationships...his means for that are that he cant trust the women in his life for what they reli want soo he searches but wen he gets a girl he treats her (me) lyk crap by continuing to do so
i like him for who he is but i think that his missing the chance of having a relationship which may b the one ...for the fact that he hasnt found her yet
in a way i think his used to having girls when he wants
but personally im not going to stay in this relationship any longer as he doesnt know wat he wants..he wants to get to know me yet wants to also hav others on the side that i knw of
would u think thats a gud enough reason for me to stick around or leave?
You deserve better.
Learn how to spell please, but yes you do deserve better.
Well, I ran it through spell check just for you and there was only one mistake. Aren't you being a bit overly critical?
ISTM, your issue with the man had nothing to do with his wealth. A guy can be dirt poor and still be a control freak.
Perhaps Moonmaiden's issue is her own. She never wants a partner to be able to have an upper-hand. If the guy has money and she doesn't, then she is already angry about a perceived power imbalance and doesn't care one bit about the man behind the money.
well maybe there are some good millionaires out there. please don't make generalisations about any group of people. it is just not right to assume all chinese eat dumplings daily.
however from your experience i totally agree that man is an asshole. just because he has money does not give him the right to humiliate others.
This artickle is not very reserached. Your man is what you "make of him".If you at dinner tell him "no i like to choose my own food but thank you for offering" he will never do that again, Just like with other minuses he might or might not have. Its how you respect yourself sets those rules. YOU decide how much he can bend you and how much he cant.
Theres always bad in rich or poor.. there are good millionaires out there that actually care. you shouldnt judge others by money or the way they order food. should be just thankful you ate considering half of americans are starving.
i know these posts were a long time ago but if anyone sees this blog i thought i'd put in my input as well. I'm 21 dating a millionaire and he is the sweetest man i've ever met. Just because he has the money, however does not mean he "holds the cards" or is in charge of anything. He is down to earth and spent his life working hard only to realise he missed the most important parts of life. He knows i don't give a s*** about money and that probably helps. So if he wants to buy me a pair of sunglasses because my eyes are burning up, i'll let him. But! In return, i take care of him when he's sick, i bake him goodies, i brew delicious coffee every morning. Sure it's not much, but it comes from the heart and that's what he wants. To him it's worth more than money. So I'd say we're more than equal in our relationship. Money is money-anyone can make money. Compassion is a true art that not everyone utilizes.
Well this is just one example. There are millionares out there who are good guys. In my experience the only difference between a millionare and a normal person is that millionares are more driven to succeed, than the rest of us.
Metamorph 4 years ago
I completely agree with you. Relationships should be much more balanced than this, and there should be no excuse to treating your date so disrespectfully.